The Way MEN Think

The way men think:

Based on the sermon Pure Sex @ my church and the book For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men (by Shaunti Feldhahn)

This came from a nationwide study of over 1500 men. All the facts are at least 85% of men's responses.

1) Men need more respect than love. If a man had to choose between respect or love, he would choose respect.

Which means a woman should never criticise, tease or belittle a man (especially in front of others). When men get angry it is a sign they are feeling disrespected.

2) Men are secretly insecure.

A woman can't tear down a man, it leads to more insecurity. Men look to their wives' happiness as measure to how they are doing as a spouse. At work a man can be measured with his success by raises, promotions, etc. The only measure of their success as a husband is the wife's happiness and attitude toward him.

3) Men are stressed out about having to be a provider.

Even if a man is a stay-at-home dad and the woman is a financial provider a man feels responsible to provide for his family. A man's primary way to show love is to provide.

4) Sex is not just a physical need.

Sex is an emotional need to feel desired. If rejected a man's confidence is shattered. The studies show that if a man is rejected the night before in his marital bed the next day at work he does not do as well. 85% of men said that sex wasn't about physical need but a need to feel desired and wanted. Of course this coinsides with insecurity and respect when denied.

5) Men are visual creatures.

Men's minds are completely different then women's. When a woman sees a sexy man on the tv she doesn't think about it afterwards. When a man sees a sexy woman he has that image pop into his head very frequently even if he doesn't want it to. He cannot help it.

6) Guys do want romance with their wives.

Men are romantic. The biggest factor in men not being romantic is fear of rejection, ridicule or teasing. A man will attempt a romantic setting with his wife and if she teases him even a tiny tiny bit or points out a fault it will be years before he tries it again. This goes along with the insecurity and need to feel respected.

7) Men do care about effort in appearance.

When a woman "lets herself go" it is like saying to a man, "I don't care enough about you to look good for you." Women are completely opposite of this. We think well he loves me, it shouldn't matter what I look like. But men are visual creatures and they look to their wives as measures of how good they are doing as a husband. When a flops around the house in sweatpants, no makeup and only gets dressed nice when they go to see other people it sends the message that we as wives don't care enough to try to look good for our husbands.
After the survey of over 1500 men was completed the most important factor that men couldn't stress enough to their wives was how much they loved their wives.

Here is a link to hear the whole sermon:
http://www.mountainchristian.org/pages/page.asp?page_id=14175
It is under the "Pure Sex" sermon.

Next week it's all about Womenzzzz.